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'I'm Not Attracted to My Husband Anymore!'
When you treat your feelings like a moral failure, eventually you feel nothing.
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Surrender to the Love Inside You
Seeking control can be a way of turning your back on your own magnificence.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'My Boyfriend Is Abandoning Our Plans and I'm So Sad and Angry!'
Your desire for control is blocking your view.
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Heather Havrilesky
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‘How Do I Get Over Coming in Second Place?’
Rejection teaches you how to please yourself.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Shame is a Side Effect of Desire
When everything feels embarrassing, sometimes it's just a sign that you're prioritizing joy, maybe for the first time ever.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'He Told Me I Was Too Much!'
Never let a robot blame you for how numb he is.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Be Good to Your Spark
When it comes to cultivating passion, only *you* can choose your best path forward.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'How Do You Know When Your Art Is Good?'
You don't. Uncertainty is what keeps you moving, inventing, and feeling everything.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Advice and wisdom from Heather Havrilesky, published since 2012 (formerly at The Awl and NY Magazine). Paid subscribers receive twice weekly posts on how to navigate our broken world with compassion, realism, and an open heart.
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