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Sometimes trying to solve the problem of your marriage turns your marriage into more of a problem.

Heather Havrilesky

12 hr ago

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Be proud of your good instincts, but don't retreat into your shell indefinitely.

Heather Havrilesky

Mar 20

Once you confront the shame of being complex in a world that prefers simplicity, deeper connections become possible.

Heather Havrilesky

Mar 15

Some situations can't be fixed with more honesty.

Heather Havrilesky

Mar 13

You'll be yourself again! Have some fun with this new lady in the meantime.

Heather Havrilesky

Mar 9

It's time to start honoring your most humiliating desires.

Heather Havrilesky

Mar 7

This calamity is a miracle.

Heather Havrilesky

Mar 1

Don't let the neurotic pigeon drive the bus.

Heather Havrilesky

Feb 27

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