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'All I Want is Love and It's Making Me Crazy!'

Abandon your mind's reductive, narrow, repeating stories about love and live inside the ever-changing realm of your body instead.

Heather Havrilesky
Nov 17, 2025
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Flammes (1905-1984), Jane Graverol

Hi Polly,

I write to you from the trenches. I’m aware of how dramatic that sounds, and I apologize for the intensity of this letter before I begin, but I am in need of your help. I remember that in one of your recent letters, you mentioned that you hate for people to look at you as a maternal figure or a wise old aunt. I…

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