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‘Am I a Shrill, Controlling Harpy or Is My Best Friend a User?’

Intimacy and trust require strong boundaries and clear requests.

Heather Havrilesky
Dec 05, 2023
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Marina (1961) by Helen Lundeberg

Dear Polly, 

Even writing that title makes me feel like a piece of shit but when I go over it in my mind, this is the question that it appears to boil down to.

I have been friends with my best friend for over ten years. Initially, we were dating but for various reasons it didn't work out and we decided to stay friends inste…

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