'Am I in Love or Do I Just Want to Be Her?'

Pay close attention to these feelings and you'll learn a lot.

Poppies (1987) by Dorothea Tanning

Dear Polly,

First off, thank you so much. As a terminal perfectionist who's desperately trying to cultivate a life of little wonders and delight, your advice always hits home.

Now, I've got something tricky to ask you about:

I keep falling in love with people who I admire. It's a problem because I can't tell if I want THEM…