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‘Am I Too Romantic About True Love?’

Don't change your entire belief system just because you're afraid of seeming naïve.

Heather Havrilesky
Oct 30, 2025
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Le poème inachevé (1970), Jane Graverol

This morning I went looking for an old, old column that would make my heart sing, and WHEW, DOES THIS ONE FIT THE BILL.

This column from July of 2019 centers on a message that we don’t hear nearly enough: If you’re soft, BE SOFT, FOR FUCK’S SAKE!!! If you’re wildly romantic and that means you get hurt more often, go…

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