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'My Avoidant Boyfriend Just Dumped Me for the Third Time!'

Never follow an emotionally distant workaholic to a second location.

Heather Havrilesky
May 02, 2024
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Flight (1966) by Dorothea Tanning

Dear Polly,

I need help. I am coming off my third break up with my intrinsically sweet and deeply avoidant partner. When things get intense, he withdraws, distances himself, texts me less, and becomes glued to his work more.

When we were breaking up this time, I asked him to read an article about the anxious-avoidant trap.…

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