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Close Friendships Are Hard!

Why does it feel so impossible just to ask for what you want?

Heather Havrilesky
Mar 06, 2024
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To the Rescue (1965) by Dorothea Tanning

I’ve always cared a lot about close friendships and I’ve always been bad at them. When I was younger, I picked up ways of navigating love relationships pretty quickly, but my friendship skills lagged far behind. Even though it seemed obvious to me that romantic relationships demanded honesty, patience, and a mutua…

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