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Desire Is Not Lack

Living a passionate life means refusing to treat desire as a sign that you're weak or inadequate.

Heather Havrilesky
Jul 07, 2022
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Red and Yellow Cliffs (1940) by Georgia O’Keeffe

Our world is afraid of passion because we define desire as lack. We tell each other the story that if you want something you can’t consume or own, that means you’re pathetic or incomplete.

But when you want something badly, desire itself is what you own. Your desire belongs to you and it can feed you. Desir…

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