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'Did My Ex Even Love Me?'

If you don't want to obsess about relationships that were never real in the first place, it's time to get real.

Heather Havrilesky
Dec 11, 2023
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Desert Light (1964) by Helen Lundeberg

Dear Polly,

At the risk of showcasing my most dramatic self, I'm here to ask the question haunting me in the wake of a recent breakup: Did my ex even love me? I'm embarrassed to admit I've been thinking about this question for weeks now. Some background: I fell very hard for a man late last year. He was (and is) char…

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