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Do You Punish Yourself Relentlessly?

Supporting yourself emotionally requires trading in bad emotional and physical habits for good ones.

Heather Havrilesky
Mar 05, 2026
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The Poet (1911), Pablo Picasso

Do you take big, courageous risks every single day, but subconsciously shame or mock or denigrate yourself when you don’t get the results you want?

Do you allow other people’s reactions and opinions to make you feel shitty about yourself, even when you recognize that they’re not interested or invested enough to see you clear…

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