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Fear of Wanting More

Fear of Wanting More

If your needs weren’t met as a kid, you might avoid the things you want the most simply because wanting itself feels so vulnerable.

Heather Havrilesky
May 09, 2022
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It Was Yellow and Pink I (1887-1986) by Georgia O’Keeffe

Sometimes it’s hard to believe in the people you depend on the most: close friends, family, spouses, partners. If your needs weren’t met as a kid, the feeling of need itself can be unsettling or threatening

When I was younger, I could never relate to people who said, “I’m afraid to love again.” But …

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