'How Can I Feel Fully Loved and Understood?'

Most of your anger starts with self-hatred and shame.

Red Pears and Fig (1923) by Georgia O’Keeffe

Dear Polly,

When I was a kid, I used to tell my mom everything I thought. Otherwise, important realizations like, "Donny is my favorite New Kid" would just disappear, without anybody ever knowing. (Yikes!) My incessant, verbalized thoughts became too much, so we came up with a solution. I would say, "Whatever I…