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'How Do I Just Be a Fucking Adult?'

By taking yourself and your life seriously again.

Heather Havrilesky
Oct 06, 2021
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My Shanty, Lake George (1922) by Georgia O’Keeffe

Dear Polly,

I am lost. 

I turned 25 last week. I still feel 17. I'm a high achiever, but I'm becoming sick of achieving anything. For the first 22 years of my life (ok, less than that because I didn't form this goal until several years after being born), I wanted to leave my tiny upstate New York hometown a…

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