‘How Do I Make This Guy Love Me?’

Your shame is making you work too hard.

Portrait of girl sitting on a colorful carpet with the toys (1931) by Pyotr Konchalovsky

Dear Polly,

I’m a 38-year-old woman. I’ve been married to my college sweetheart, divorced, lived with another partner for 7+ years, then was widowed 3 years ago, now single again (plus I live in India).

I had a bad emotional breakdown last year in September, after drin…