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How Do You Decide For Yourself?

When you're anxious, self-conscious, and afraid, how do you find your bearings and learn to trust yourself again?

Heather Havrilesky
Feb 10, 2026
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Toilette (1906), Pablo Picasso

When I was very young, one of my roommates had a lot of notes for me. I didn’t dress correctly, I didn’t eat the right things, my taste in art was all wrong, I said the wrong things, my song lyrics were too obvious. I should try to emulate the Pixies, I should study fashion trends, I should make cooler choices. I was a rube…

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