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How Status Anxiety Erodes Joy

If you want to thrive, you have to take the shape that pleases you the most.

Heather Havrilesky
Jun 07, 2021
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Storm Cloud, Lake George (1923) by Georgia O’Keeffe

Status anxiety is truly the enemy of joy. When you care too much about your standing in the world, that can erode your happiness and your ability to connect with the people around you. You compare yourself to others, feel inadequate, and look for some solution to these bad feelings. Without recognizing …

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