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How to Be a True Romantic

Embracing the romance of everyday life includes cultivating curiosity for unexpected moods and unfamiliar spirits.

Heather Havrilesky
May 30, 2024
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The Moonstone Effect (1959) by Dorothea Tanning

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the balance between daring to believe that you deserve joy (a radical belief, when you’ve settled for less for so long) and focusing on joy so much that it becomes just another form of overachieving that distracts you from the mundane satisfactions of daily life. This m…

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