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How to Find Romance All by Yourself

Stop believing everything is better with a partner. It's just not.

Heather Havrilesky
May 31, 2021
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Oriental Poppies (1928) by Georgia O’Keeffe

Here’s something I probably haven’t written about that often, because it makes me sound weak: I hated being alone when I was younger. Every time I saw a beautiful sunset by myself, all I could think about was how badly I wanted SOME SPECIAL MAN to be there with me.

Ew. That’s not how I am anymore. Now I find it …

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