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How to Get Off Your Own Back

Your vision of how your life should look might be blocking your view.

Heather Havrilesky
Aug 30, 2021
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Red and Brown Leaves (1925) by Georgia O’Keeffe

We all have fantasies of what our lives are supposed to look like. Sometimes we carry these perfect visions around for so long that they harden into a belief system that forms like a cage around us, blocking out the flawed beauty of what’s actually here. As each new challenge or experience fails to match th…

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