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How to Set Yourself Up for Failure

The benefits of replacing your perfectionist NO with a realist YES.

Heather Havrilesky
Mar 09, 2022
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New York Night (1929) by Georgia O’Keeffe

Last week, I talked to two professionals I trusted about a problem I was facing. One person said, “You could try X, but it’s unlikely that it will work.” The other person said, “You should try X, because there’s a chance that it will work.”

What’s interesting is that, instead of feeling confused or fearful or deci…

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