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'I Can't Stop Thinking About Him!'

What are you avoiding?

Heather Havrilesky
Sep 01, 2021
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Pineapple Bud (1939) by Georgia O’Keeffe

Dear Polly,

A coworker and friend told me he had feelings for me this spring. The catch? He’s engaged and very soon to be married.

I never thought of him that way, mostly because he has been in a committed relationship for as long as I’ve known him. He’s funny, smart, and kind, but he is also stubborn, drinks too mu…

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