'I Don't Want to Marry You' Isn't an Insult

Some thoughts on rejection and shame.

Sundown Shadow (1983) by Helen Lundeberg

Someone shared this observation in the comments section of a column from last week:

“If a person sees and loves me, but ultimately says "I don't love you *like that* — I don't want to spend my *life* with you" — it's reminiscent of how I sometimes feel about myself which is: "I love you, I can see that you try so h…