'I'm Haunted by My Ex-Lover and Distant from My Husband!'

Ambivalence is a form of procrastination.

Sloping Horizon (1960) by Helen Lundeberg

(Apparently May is Marriage Month! This might be the longest letter I’ve ever published, but it feels worthwhile in part because it’s so detailed. Those who make it to the end are encouraged to join us for a lively discussion about idealization, honesty, and marital satisfaction in the comments.)

Dear Polly,

I'm go…