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'I Feel So Dissatisfied With My Friendships!'

Connection is hard. Friendship is scary. Trust feels impossible. The only solution is to try and try and try and try and try and try again.

Heather Havrilesky
Nov 21, 2024
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To Distraction (1962) by Dorothea Tanning

Dear Polly,

Thank you for all of your advice over the years. I always turn to your letters when I need to hear what's true, even if it's hard to hear.

I'm writing because I (35 y/o female) am sitting in my apartment on a Saturday night and wondering how I got to what feels like a lonelier place than I've ever been.

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