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'I Hate All Photos of Myself And I Can't Seem to Get Over It!'

It's time to switch things up. SWITCH IT THE FUCK UP, ISLANDERS!

Heather Havrilesky
May 27, 2026
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Fernande’s Head (1906), Pablo Picasso

Dear Polly,

I know a lot of people are camera shy, but for me, it’s extreme. I’m middle-aged and have struggled with this my entire life. Seeing a photo of myself can send me spiraling into depression for days. Being asked to pose for a photo is deeply uncomfortable.

I’m okay with mirrors. I don’t love the way I look, …

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