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'I Have No Close Friends!'

When you repeatedly blame others for not giving you enough love, that's a sign that you're internally blaming yourself for being unlovable.

Heather Havrilesky
Jun 05, 2023
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The Poet’s Road (1961) by Helen Lundeberg

Hi Polly.

I'm 35 and single and the past few years have left me devastated. I have lost various of my closest friends through falling out or (unwanted, on my side) growing apart. These were the kind of friends I thought would be in my wedding, friends whose lives were so intertwined.

I'm not imagining the distance.…

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