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'I Made a Huge Mistake and Now He's Gone for Good!'

This humbling has so much to offer you.

Heather Havrilesky
Dec 01, 2025
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L’âme de Newton (x), Jane Graverol

Dear Polly,

Last year, after eleven months of silence, I wrote the most vulnerable letter of my life. It was addressed to the man I had blocked after a five-year on-and-off dynamic that left me feeling disposable. I have strong fearful avoidant tendencies, and I have never been someone who expresses my feelings easily. B…

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