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'I Moved West But Now I Feel Lost. Was It All A Mistake?'

Every mistake is an experiment, every experiment includes learning and discovering more about what you love.

Heather Havrilesky
Aug 17, 2026
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Light Loneliness (1940), Yves Tanguy

Dear Polly,

I am lost — on purpose! — and it’s freaking me out. Did I make a wrong turn? Should I have never left my cozy cocoon of reality to fuck around and find out? What exactly am I finding out, again? And how do I get back to the trail I was on before? Do I want to get back? Will it be less gorgeous than I rememb…

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