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'I Never Cheated But My Wife Doesn't Trust Me!'

As long as you play a placating role, you can't cultivate real intimacy and trust.

Heather Havrilesky
May 22, 2023
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Enigma of Reality (1955) by Helen Lundeberg

Hello Polly.

My wife and I have been married for eight years, and we have two young daughters. She comes from a home life of neglect and tragedy. Her mother is estranged and her father died in a car accident years before we met. She survived a drowning accident as a toddler, and as a result has permanent progres…

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