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‘I Should Be Over This Breakup by Now’

‘I Should Be Over This Breakup by Now’

Stop imposing deadlines on this sadness and be where you are.

Heather Havrilesky
Sep 30, 2021
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Lake George, Autumn 1922 by Georgia O’Keeffe

Dear Polly,

I recently separated from my partner of three years. He initiated it. In a year of what felt like endless engagements, pregnancies, and divorces announced over social media, my relationship went gentle into that good night. I surprised myself by how soon I realized it was right for him to end things…

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