'I Want Perfect Or Nothing At All!'

When you flee from vulnerability and honesty, you become numb and defensive.

Pink and Green (1922) by Georgia O’Keeffe

Hi Polly,

I have a deal with life: No more suffering. I'll keep getting up every day and doing this thing, working, stretching myself thin, struggling, so long as there is no new suffering. My suffering limit has already been reached.

I'm a 28 year-old gay man. I am a people pleaser and self hater, which helped me …