'I Want to Be Less Mean!'

In order to be nicer, you have to embrace your whole self, sharp teeth and all.

Inspiration Comes in Painting (1973), Dorothea Tanning

Hi Polly,

I think I'm the issue. I'm 23, have never been in a relationship longer than a few months, and just about have a near anxiety breakdown every time I get into an argument with a partner (if I can even call them that).

I want to be a better, more secure, more relaxed or maybe just a happier per…