'I Want to Fix My Marriage But I Am So Done!'

You don't have to change how you feel, you just have to be where you are.

Landscape (1961) by Helen Lundeberg

Dear Polly,

I need to get my heart and my head on the same page and I don’t know how. My husband and I are contemplating divorce. He has some bad qualities that he is currently working on — being overly critical, invalidating my emotions, not verbally expressing appreciation or affection. But he has a lot of good qualit…