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'I'm a Mess And I Can't Fix It!'

'I'm a Mess And I Can't Fix It!'

Your shame says that you're the problem. Tell your shame to fuck off.

Heather Havrilesky
Feb 20, 2025
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Untitled (2019), Flora Yukhnovich

A note to all paid subscribers: THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT! I feel so grateful for you this morning. I also want to warn you that this column is very long, but the core challenges outlined here are so common that I wanted to get very granular about how to navigate them. The main takeaway is that shame and neuroticism can…

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