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'I'm Afraid of Aging!'

Feeling beautiful and confident over the course of your life requires choosing a path away from our culture's idiotic narratives about growing older.

Heather Havrilesky
Feb 21, 2024
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Far From (1964) by Dorothea Tanning

Dear Polly,

I was messaged on a dating app by a guy a year younger than me who said “If I can guess your real age, can I buy you a drink?” And it ruined my night. At 27, I do have distinct smile lines around my mouth and coming from my nose, and my eyes wrinkle a lot when I smile, but I think other than that I don’t loo…

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