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'I'm Going to Lose My Perfect Boyfriend and I'm Panicking!'

Strategizing will only make you more anxious.

Heather Havrilesky
Oct 25, 2021
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Dear Polly, 

I am in a relationship with a fantastic and gorgeous (so so so gorgeous) man, who I think I could be falling in love with and the more invested I get the more terrified I feel and the more I indulge in unhealthy behaviors that leave me looking needy and clingy and insecure. Over time, these b…

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