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'I'm in Love with the Wrong Person'

It's time to live in reality again.

Heather Havrilesky
Dec 30, 2020
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“The Queen” (1954) by Gertrude Abercrombie

Dear Polly,

I am writing because I am in love with the wrong person. I need to not be in love with him anymore. I need to stop loving him.

This man is a longtime friend from childhood. We dated during our senior year in high school, stayed loosely connected over our 20s, then reunited three years ago in a city whe…

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