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'I'm Not Attracted to My Husband Anymore!'

When you treat your feelings like a moral failure, eventually you feel nothing.

Heather Havrilesky
Oct 02, 2023
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Dear Polly,

When I read Foreverland and saw the ways you characterized your own marital behavior as brutal, villainous, loving, and optimistic all at once, I felt a sense of relief that maybe I’m not as broken as I thought I was. But in the year since then, I have been reading your column, and I find myse…

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