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'I'm Not Working Too Hard to Win Love Anymore!'

Letting go of impossible goals can feel truly euphoric.

Heather Havrilesky
Sep 12, 2022
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The White Calico Flower (1931) by Georgia O’Keeffe

Dear Polly,

Yesterday I broke up with my boyfriend because we didn't want the same things — a pretty average statement; but I would have never had the courage and trust in myself to tell him what I wanted and really understand that he wanted something less without taking your advice to just feel my feelin…

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