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'I'm Secretly Vain and It's Gross!'

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'I'm Secretly Vain and It's Gross!'

Disavowing your deepest desires makes your life less interesting.

Heather Havrilesky
Nov 1, 2021
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A Sunflower from Maggie (1928) by Georgia O’Keeffe

Dear Polly, 

I’ve got this problem with feeling absolutely disgusted with myself for wanting to feel attractive. I know this is a natural human impulse, and I’ve made some progress on not automatically feeling shame and embarrassment when I feel other completely normal human emotions, but this desire part…

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