'I'm Secretly Vain and It's Gross!'

Disavowing your deepest desires makes your life less interesting.

A Sunflower from Maggie (1928) by Georgia O’Keeffe

Dear Polly, 

I’ve got this problem with feeling absolutely disgusted with myself for wanting to feel attractive. I know this is a natural human impulse, and I’ve made some progress on not automatically feeling shame and embarrassment when I feel other completely normal human emotions, but this desire part…