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This letter really reminds me of my young self. The thing is, LW, I really thought that living a life of Excellence and Inspiration would shield me from some of the mundanity and drudgery of life. But I burned out at 30, exhausted by perfectionism and people-pleasing. And guess what - life has taught me that we're almost ALL deeply mediocre, even if we push ourselves like crazy to avoid this fate. Excellence and striving are fine, but the things that make life worth living don't burn as brightly as the "starry" moments - and look around you! Virtually everyone has to grind their way through the little mundanities of life. There is no point in making yourself a highly-strung mess to attain some form of perfection that in all likelihood won't even make you happy.

LW, this moment is a gift. Something in your mind and body is telling you that you can't live like this. It may or may not be your career that's unsustainable, or your thwarted creative side, or just the lies that you have grown up with in a toxic culture or (maybe) an emotionally unaware or emotionally suppressive family. You don't have to figure it all out right now, but you do have to be open to noticing what makes you feel most alive and what traps you in the old patterns.

If you don't achieve your dream at this moment, there's no need to panic. There are many ways and paths to achieve the outcome that you most want. Think about what appeals to you in the dream job OUTSIDE OF the status and prestige. You'll figure it out if you're open to the messages that this moment wants you to receive.

I feel so strongly about this because I see young people every day who are frantically contorting themselves into a future-friendly shape before they even know who they are. Stop; listen; notice what your body is telling you about the present moment, and try to let your whirring mind take a back seat for a moment. You'll figure it out, I promise ❤️

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Jasmin's avatar

"Dare to be ordinary." I heard these words in my head years ago while walking, and I’m not sure where they came from—perhaps from all the books I’ve read or the reflections I’ve had. But when that voice emerged, the words resonated so deeply that they changed my life. It was as if a tremendous weight I hadn’t even realized I was carrying was suddenly lifted—the weight of inner tyranny.

Paradoxically, it’s only in embracing our ordinariness that the extraordinary reveals itself, for one cannot exist without the other. Since then, little by little, I’ve begun to dare to simply be myself, embracing both the darkness and the light along the way.

I love this letter, and Polly’s response is written so beautifully<3

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