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Insecurity Makes You Brittle

Stop focusing on what you're missing and ground yourself.

Heather Havrilesky
Jan 11, 2023
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Islands (1986) by Helen Lundeberg

People often talk about the imbalanced or toxic dynamics in the world as if they spring from bad intentions, immoral motives, or pure evil. But when you zoom in on most high-profile calamities, what you find are human beings who became less and less capable of deep connection with others. Instead of expanding their under…

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