Intimacy Starts When You Stop Trying to Fix Everything

Don't let the neurotic pigeon drive the bus.

Untitled (May Planet) (1969) by Helen Lundeberg

You might believe that taking responsibility for someone else’s emotional state makes you a good person – generous, thoughtful, considerate. But if you’re obsessive, anxious, avoidant, haunted by guilt, an overachiever, or an overthinker, then the state of mind you see as responsible or honorable might be e…