'Is He Manipulating Me?'

Love shouldn't feel like work, especially at the very beginning.

Red and Orange Streak (1919) by Georgia O’Keeffe

Dear Polly,

I met a man 6 months ago and we hit it off straight away. Our first date stretched over three days, we had a wonderful time and lots of fun with each other. He is smart, charismatic, funny and can be really deep and sensitive, and really aware of the world around him.

I had noticed some red flags…