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Is Insecure Attachment Making You Unhappy and Stuck?

And if so, what can you do about it?

Heather Havrilesky
Sep 04, 2025
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The New Melancholy (1956), Jane Graverol

Do you feel unsettled by your most intimate relationships and your most passionate dreams and goals? Does it bother you how often deep insecurities arise out of the blue? Do you feel like you spend a lot of time and energy trying to hide how emotional and sensitive you are?

If so, you might be struggling with inse…

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