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Managing Your Expectations of Friends

If two friends aren't equally invested, does that mean the friendship should end?

Heather Havrilesky
Jun 28, 2024
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Lunatics (1963) by Dorothea Tanning

Here it is, the year of our insect overlords 2024, and friendships are still treated as less important than marriage and family. While many of us spend countless hours analyzing our romantic relationships, common wisdom still dictates that any friendship that becomes complicated or intense isn’t worth the effort.

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