'My Boyfriend Is Abandoning Our Plans and I'm So Sad and Angry!'

Your desire for control is blocking your view.

Seascape (1962) by Helen Lundeberg

Hola Polly.

Many many thanks for existing and giving us advice! I'm neurotically writing letters to you all the time. How do you know what we need? How do you get to the heart of things?

Here's my problem. I'm writing to you from Spain. I recently wrote in one of the comments (in the column about embarrassment) and you (a…