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My Boyfriend Is Smothering Me. Am I Just Spoiled?

Your negative storytelling is blocking your path to happiness.

Heather Havrilesky
Jan 27, 2021
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Girl Searching (1945) by Gertrude Abercrombie

Hi Polly.

I’m writing to you because you seem to figure out what people are really asking when they write to you, and respond to that question. As a fairly introspective person, I think I figured out my issue, but I’m constantly questioning it. 

Recently I’ve been slowly discovering that my independence is impe…

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