'My Close Friend Is Being Selfish!'

Respecting your own idiosyncratic needs makes intimate friendships so much easier.

East River from the Shelton (1926) by Georgia O’Keeffe

Dear Polly,

I need help navigating a bit of a rough patch in a close friendship. My friend "Nadia" and I are both women in our early 30s who bonded closely after college. Nadia is one of my best friends and truly a gem of a human. She is smart, hilarious and a terrific listener, whether I'm venting or…